Later today the Sun in Virgo makes an exact opposition to Chiron in Pisces. Whenever the Sun lights up the energy of Chiron, the potential to heal old wounds arises. The more we heal the parts of us that are hurt, the less pressure we are likely to place on our relationships to rescue and fix us – be it intimate other, friendships, family, work colleagues…
That is not to say that Relationships don’t play a very important role in bringing to light the shadow parts in all of us. Once painful issues have come into our consciousness, we can no longer push them into our unconscious. The key issue then becomes - what do we do with those unhealed parts, once they are mirrored back to us through our interactions with others?
There are many choices of course, including attempts to suppress and repress them through denial and addictions. Denial can take place via emotional detachment and intellectual rationalization. Addictions can include workaholism, food, sex and needing constant company, as well as drug (including prescription drugs), smoking and alcohol abuse.
The biggest challenge in relationships is our refusal to deal with our core wounding, rather than the nature of the actual wounding in itself. As we all inevitably accumulate pain and hurt over the years, the recognition of pain in another person is more likely to evoke compassion rather than rejection. However, avoiding dealing with our pain often makes even the most loving relationship untenable.
In looking at our birth chart, it can be helpful to look at natal Saturn and aspects to it (our defenses) as well as natal Chiron (where and how we feel wounded). Our Moon and aspects to it describes our emotional life and what we need to feel safe and nurtured. The aspects to natal Moon also describe experiences in early infancy which affected our feeling of security.
Today is a great day to notice any painful issues that are coming to the surface for us all in our relationships, so that we can work with them within ourselves, or with the help of a counselor/psychotherapist. Taking care of our own unresolved wounds is the best gift we can give ourselves and our loved ones, as we endeavor to create growthful and life enhancing relationships. MG